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Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Efforts and working


I haven't cotton on this concept of efforts and working  in relationships.like people say work on your relationship. Is this   about making a building or passing a maths test, where one has to do hard yakka.

I really don't think so.

Relationships are pretty simple basically. It's about two people, who are together voluntary. You just can't force someone to be your friend or a lover. And you also can't  do efforts  to be someone's besties or sweet heart. It is all natural. If someone is comfortable  with you, he or she will definitely  be with you no matter what. And if not then why wasting time.  There are plenty of fish  in water.


Especially  girls around married man. Are they in their right senses ?
There is no need to be married man's best friend. He is not your friend, no not even your best friend. He might be  " was",  was means THA, geggit ?  Yeah zaberdati ki yari dosti appny pass rakho.

That person is not running and hiding  like you are thinking! And lets suppose you are by chance right, he is running and ridding, then  it's a time to come out from your airy fairy world and face the bitter truth, he is no more into you.

Don't insult your self. 



20 comments:

  1. Agreed babe. It`s the reason why I`ve stopped worrying about The Boy losing interest in me due to long distance or not. If he wants it to work, as long as i like him, it will. If he doesn`t, no amount of worrying and pouting on my part will change his mind.

    kinda zen feeling afterwards when that`s realized :)
    mad love,
    Nancy

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  2. Don't give up Izdiher! Someday, the right one will come along! Have faith, be patient and just keep on being you. The ones that don't want to waste their time on you really aren't worthit in the end!

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  3. I agree! It is all natural. Somethings just happens as if its a flow. It does not need any push or effort. There are many options but they are visible only when we are willing to open our eyes to them.

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  4. Very well said ... I truly agree with you !!!

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  5. Sure you can, it's called kidnapping!

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  6. OK, OK, so the above wasn't a very funny joke. Seriously though, you bring up a good point. Maybe just because of my unique (not so unique actually) experience, and maybe just because I've been in the ME for the past year...I don't know. However, I agree wholeheartedly. Married people have no business having single "best friends" of the opposite sex. I also agree that sometimes the "he's just not that into you" thing applies and it applies vice-versa as well. It's a cold, ugly world some days habibi, but the cold days make the warm ones special.

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  7. Wise-men say, If a relationship is meant 2b a secret, don't be in it.

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  8. Nice writing straight from heart:)

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  9. well sometimes being wise is pretty tough to do when you're deeply inlove

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  10. I do agree with you... I dont like my future hubby having a female bet friend I mean what for? That thing would lead to jealousy and ruin the relationship.

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  11. Yes ur so right.. Its better to use our brains rather then heart. Pyaar and all its just filmy fundas which are used to make us a fool.. But in reality Pyaar se pet nahi bharta bas aansu or ignorance milta hai.. Lets grow up and be strong and take right decision which will be good for our and our families future..

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  12. Good one! They'll begin with "just friends" then "you understand me better than my wife" then "I love you" then "I'll leave my wife for you" but finally "Sorry, I can't leave my wife for the sake of our children" hahahaha..

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  13. Right on the button Izdiher!

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  14. That was so straight to the point, I'd say ouch LOL ;)

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  15. i definitely agree with what you said. but love can blind a person

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  17. WOW! Izdiher, I must agree with these others, you ARE "right on" the mark. As I--an old man--look back, I find I have crossed the line from "acquaintance", to friend, to Best Friend, and on to FANTASY LAND often...while married. Do not ask why. It is that same escape from reality, that same need to feel loved, to know someone cares (that same DEVIL?) which drives the family car right into a wreck...EVERY TIME. No wish to blame. No wish to hurt another--ANY other. Humanness takes over the life, says, "Let's have fun while we are young, No Matter What (NMW). And...away we go.

    Well, I have female friend(s) now, and sometimes it is all the strength I have to keep my heart out of my friendship. SO...age has brought me to a greater trust in my Higher Power (God), Who will take care of matters for which I am not able.

    Good topic. Good warning to both men AND women. I repeat, Iz...you should look into a writing career, minimal schooling to refine you English skills, etc. But the TALENT is there. I see it. Everyone who reads you sees it. And most important for a writer, you have that honesty known by so few. And that fearlessness owned by fewer still.

    Hear my words, Pakistani-Peep
    PEACE!

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