Last night I was watching this show dubbed Taboo on National Geographic Channel. The episode was about " Teen Sex" where one item who were just 14 and about to be parents, Cambodian Love Huts (a place father build for their teenage daughters so they can spend time with boys), also about girls who wear promising ring and their pledge to remain virgins until marriage.
In some part of the world sex before marriage is just a right thing. To them promising ring type people look losers. To them teen sex is acceptable or if not they are accepting because you can't do anything when arrow has been shot.
Well, I am not gonna comment on those societies, and these teen moms/ parents, because if I'm gonna point one finger toward some society or peeps just because my believe and faith is different, they would point four fingers toward me.
All I can say is that, in the end of the day we are all humans. Thing is that everyone is different. Every society is different. However you can't close your eyes at teen sex because we have seen that in many cases mostly girl child has to bear all this.
Some debate sex is for adults. Some say teens are almost adult and they have hormones.
I reckon everyone has hormones, just that some are ready pretty early. And there is no harm in it. Actually, this 18 year old notion is so stupid, and corrupt because person is adult man or woman the day he/she reaches his puberty. Parents should keep these things in mind. Young adult child has his/her needs and parents have this responsibility to tell them right thing and guide.
Kids learn from their home, environment, tradition, culture, religion, and society. So don't put all the blame on teen hood and hormones. Listen to them, and treat them like young adults.
In back days early marriage was in practice, where both bride and groom where almost teen, which was a good thing. See, you have to do that, whether you do that sooner or later. So it is better to do in a legit way, isn't?
I will do the same thing with my kids if they would be so horny. Here they will hit 16 or 18, I will tie their knots. There is no other way if they so desperate.
You can't keep it zipped ?
Let me hook you up !!!
See, God created Adam and Eve, and this is not a sinful thing. In my opinion, sex is a healthy and blessing, if it is in between husband and wife, only. The end.
In our urban areas I have never seen such teenage items with kids. Just that poor parents force their minor girls to marry someone way older than her. The man gives money to girl's parents and everything is set. Some time it is a not just for money, a good way to get rid of girl child. This happens awful lot, so yeah this is teen sex or marriage over here.
In normal families people do also want their kids to get married as soon as possible, again especially their girls.
So, their are so many girls who are teen and mother.....and living their lives. Difference is that they have husband who are bit mature, and older. Parents arranged that. Child is parents responsibility, father is guardian till someone is 18 and this falls in under civil law. However, parents take care of child till he/she ain't get married.
I was thinking, no body taught us sex education and all that jazz in our schools. I never asked my parents where and how I come from? Somehow we figure it out all in our own way. It is natural. Dumb kids ask these stuff.
Only lectures we got on this issue was " stay away from boys/ men." I also don't remember when I studied the topic of reproduction in my biology class. I did, OK. Just that teacher taught in a way, that it was not so awkward, or I didn't pay any notice.
Does it mean all is well or we have some what low sex drives than others?
No, all is not that well, but still some are pretty well. Like, institution of marriage is still quite strong. On the other hand, like I said everything is not that well. People do whatever they want to do.
Days ago I was reading Ansar Abasi's article that this is becoming quite an issue in our rural areas as well. Lots of teen age girls are going for abortion. Might be .......God knows. Their life, their choice.
That is why I emphasized more on marriage, rather than safe or protected sex.
In this world everything happens. Some teen parents are success stories, some are total disaster.
God knows the best.
Note: This post ain't to abash, embarrass or offend anyone.